Declining invites

Nowadays a large number of my batchmates from IIT/IIM are getting married. A disproportionately large number of them. And a number of them are sending me personal invites for the wedding (an email which is addressed only to me, starting with “Dear Karthik”, with the invitation attached).

Now, the thing is that most of these weddings are not in Bangalore, and I’d have to travel to attend them. And I don’t know what to do with them. Most of these are from people whom I knew, but didn’t know too well – I’d go if the wedding was in Bangalore, but I’m not sure if I’d want to travel for their weddings.

So I don’t really know what to do. Should I reply to their invites, and congratulate them and apologize that I won’t be able to make it? Or just put a “well left”? Or don’t reply to the invite now but just call up and congratulate the person after the wedding?

So far I haven’t figured out how to take care of this so I’m just putting a “well left”. I don’t know if this action, rather inaction, is right. But in a couple of cases it’s already way past the wedding to congratulate them now.

Considering that the flood has just started, I think I can expect a lot more such invites in the near future. And I need a concrete plan on how to approach them.

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