Have I told you that my wife regularly puts out a lot of great content on relationships? She has a relationship blog. A newsletter on relationship markets (brownie points for guessing the funda of the name). A personal youtube channel. A “professional” youtube channel.
There’s a lot of amazing content she puts out through all these channels, but I must say that I got especially blown away by this one video that she has put up recently. It is a conversation with Urvashi Goverdhan, an actor and model, about “how to get the first date”.
So you might be single and wondering how you can chat up someone of the opposite sex (or in the interest of diversity, should I say “gender that you want to partner with”?). And if you are like what I was until 2009, you have no clue how to do it.
Most of the time you play over conservative and miss out on opportunities. Sometimes you might decide to go aggressive, but do it all wrong (as I kept doing through most of the 2000s), and count yourself lucky that your “target” decides that physically harming you or shaming you is not worth their time.
If you are like that (and I was like that till at least August 2009 – if you’re not convinced go read my blog archives. Everything about my life from 2004 onwards is well documented here), then I strongly urge you to listen to this conversation, as these two wonderful ladies talk about what women look out for in men, and what men need to do to get women’s attention in a nice manner.
Watching this now, I so strongly wish that I had seen this 11-15 years back. I would have been able to make very good use of it back then. Then again, if I had seen this video and been able to make good use of it back in the day, then there is a strong likelihood that I may not have met the person who is now my wife at all (some of you might know – we met through this blog, and then Orkut, and then chatted for long enough that when we met, it was a “qualified lead” that I was able to convert).
It is a long video, but completely worth your time. So go ahead and watch it in full. Oh, and you should subscribe to the Marriage Broker Auntie Youtube channel as well, if you haven’t already.
Still not convinced that you should watch the video pasted above? Here are some pointers I gathered, all from the first 10 minutes of the video:
- If a boy is in a group that already has girls, then there is a higher chance of other girls wanting to talk to him
- Pick up lines don’t work. At all.
- When you repeatedly make eye contact with someone, smile. Don’t stare.
Okay, now go off and watch the video!
2 thoughts on “I wish I’d seen this 12 years back”
Here’s another Gem:
Don’t take dating advice from Girls; they’re clueless as to what they like – and when they’re clued, it’s too politically incorrect to say in civilised spaces.
At few places, she makes sense. But at others, she expects what she doesn’t hold herself to deliver. Or would I come off as one opinionated just by stating what was obvious? Better yet, craftily come off as someone correct, likeable and desirable like you genuinely meant it. We’ll, should work in the longer run.