i get the feeling that using the word “please” in certain contexts makes things less polite. it sounds as if it is imposing something on someone, or forcing someone to do something. especially in the formal/corporate context.
suppose you write to someone saying “can you do this?” you are just asking if someone to do something. And “no” is a perfectly okay answer for that.
however, if you happen to say? “can you please do this?” it’s that much harder for the other person to say “no”. and given that you have said “please”, you are much more liable to take offence if the counterparty says “no”.
please? tell me if i’m missing something here.